01
In 2020, and the first generation 9X has officially turned 30.
A lot of people exclaim that "middle -aged age is no longer far away, but why I am still useless."
The reason for producing concerns about age is because of our concept of deepness.
From small to large, we are always taught to cherish time.
And then, every day just passed, blinking for a year, and myself still stood still.
Plus with the influence of network communication:
"Women through 28 are not married anymore."
"Before 30 years old should give birth."
"Men over 30 are down the code."
"Entering middle age but still not to be done, it is considered it!"
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It is also invisible to increase our concerns, making it difficult for us to face the increase in age.
But the concern of age, is it really necessary?
02
Just pay attention to see, many 9x hours or jokes (do not know how to joke or not) call yourself "old lady", "old man" all.
A lot of people have started to join the nursing ranks, replacing carbonated soft drinks with chrysanthemum tea good for health.
In the past, the freedom of freedom was free, now only two places are companies and houses.
Two days before walking, there were two young people who were flabby.
One of the two said, "Haizz ... Youth is really good."
I cried badly, I was only two years old, how to get old ...
But thinking carefully, we are not young anymore.
The 9X generation, who has been working for a few years, of which many people are falling into the "congestion" stage of their career.
Want to improve yourself but do not have time, work, it is difficult to find and dare not jump.
New people, more and more, healthier, more energetic, and also accepts low salaries, making them always fear they are chased at any time.
The pressure of work, the pressure of marriage, the pressure of marriage is urged, indeed a bit of impotence.
"Thinking about my reality, I sometimes worry about insomnia ..."
In fact, there is no young person who doesn't get old.
Proactively withdraw from the ranks of youth just just just because it feels worried about age to the point of inferiority and helplessness.
Development is limited, young people are constantly entering the market, maybe not worry?
But on the other hand, anxiety about age also affects the psychology of adults.
"When you were young, you had to enjoy it."
This is the words of a girl who is only 16 years old.
The age should inherently study, but do not want to learn because it is boring and tasteless.
For her, life is worth it, otherwise there will be a mistake with her youth years.
Anyway, the thing that young people have is an opportunity, wrong, then do it again, that's all.
I was suddenly aware of one thing, when "older" became a burden, the "young" would naturally become the capital.
Everyone pursues youth, middle -aged, elderly discrimination, seems to lose youth is losing the joy and value of life.
This makes people who have not yet grown to form the ideology of enjoyment when they can still be striving.
They do not know that, children do not try, and they will be tragic.
Wait until the day is more mature, starting to face the pressure of life before discovering that he has nothing.
03
Why appear anxious age?
This problem reminds me of an old colleague named Luu.
In my eyes, he is a successful person, a happy family, and a full career.
But for him, that's not enough.
The money, the car, the main tuition of extra classes for children, the money for their parents, all made him dare not relax.
The work or social relationship in the company, despite being annoyed to the beginning, he also tried his best to handle.
45 years old, telling children not young, saying old is not old.
There are young people who are free to finance, starting to do what they love, and they still have a headache about money, just compare like that, making him think he is a failure.
Sometimes, we are worried about the age, not only because of aging, but more importantly because we know we lack accumulation commensurate with age,Including capacity, experience, savings ...
In addition to comparing with others, anxiety increased many more times.
This phenomenon, exists at all ages.
Youth is at risk of youth and middle -aged at risk of middle -aged, elderly people with troubles of the elderly.
The 72 -year -old old man fell down, but the bones and legs were not very good.
But he was not bothered, still helping his wife and children to do housework and children, but because of this, arguing with their children.
During one time he went to get water, he fell again.
It is often said that there are a few old people who do not know "their strength", thinking that they are young as healthy as a boy.
But actually, not because they do not want to accept themselves old, but because they do not dare to lose old age, so they want to prove that "I'm fine", only thing, this is ultimately just a securityiron.
Because of anxiety, its core cause is that we are afraid of death.
Live, still want to do a lot of things, but life is limited.
At the time of being a family, it is not yet a family, sometimes it is not possible to make a career, the narrowing of the last life creates a crisis of age.
Ignoring some "milestone", is not known next.
04
If every age has a separate worry, is the age ultimately important or not?
Of course important.
Youth is synonymous with vitality, synonymous with open mind, or rapid development.
It also means that people will have more opportunities to fail and remake from the beginning.
But even so, the age does not decide anything.
"At any age", it's just a chain we set for ourselves.
Just looking at the Chinese old man from Ngoc Khon, his life could be called "opposite to age".
At 5 years old, his mother lost his mother, 13 years old and missed, hard for a lifetime, finally there were only a few samples of vegetable soil.
But he did not have a volunteer mood, did not care for his whole life only around the land and brick house.
When he said he wanted to go around the world, everyone around him protested.
"The two daughters were still not married, what did he go and the two of them had to do? And his wife?"
Hearing that, he only knew this aside, but in his heart, he was constantly dreaming.
Until one day of 10 years later, he kicked his bike starting the journey he always cherished.
Throughout the way, he had met a wild animal, had to eat raw animals, and almost accidentally shot dead ...
But he still persisted.
During 12 years, Mr. Khon went almost China, and left his footprint in 25 different countries.
Someone said he was more troublesome for his children, saying that he was abnormal.
But he did not notice, "Going out to see more things, my ideals."
"Before I was 60 years old, I was a farmer, a father, a husband, after 60 years old, I was a tourist, I wanted to do two things in my life."
"Before I was 60 years old, I was a farmer, a father, a husband, after 60 years old, I was a tourist."
Age is capital, but not limited.
Sociology has a concept called "social time".
The general meaning is that humans do not completely depend on the process of natural life, but will be influenced by the social time that is established by people.
For example, before the age of 30 should get married, before 35 years of age.
But social time is not never changing.
Just like that we often take the so -called "Three Cross, the Four Throughs or" Men, but ignore the thing that today's society has changed.
Wanting a person who has just finished studying a few short years later has gained a brilliant career is extremely difficult.
Moreover, social time is just a reference, everyone has their own time area.
We can allow our 30 -year -old still on the way to explore the direction of life, can also allow us to be 80 years old and still challenge ourselves.
Living in his rhythm, there is no need to let the important value of society tie.
Because life, after all, it is yours.
05
Someone said: "The years are actually something that can be bragging."
Young enthusiastic, middle -aged people are quiet, the elderly perhaps life, each stage has their own special characteristics.
As for people, when stopping without moving forward, it is when you are really getting old.
So, want to get out of anxiety about your age, constantly refresh yourself.
Psychologist Frank once said, pursuing the meaning of human instincts, it will help people to treat life more positively.
Regardless of learning or taking care of your health, whether you are hobbies or responsibilities, go to do things you think is meaningful.
But always remember that, changing it takes time, wanting to quickly succeed quickly, on the contrary will only make you more tired.
Also do not worry will not catch up to others, just need to progress, then all efforts to spend are not wasteful.
Just like a old lady, at the age of near the sky and still want to go to college.
My nephew asked her: "Grandma, even if you have been in college, you will be 84 years old after you, when you are at this age and you still want to do what?"
The old lady replied, "No, I love it, even if you do nothing, you will only be 84 years old."
If the flow of age is not able to stop, then instead of not sitting there to look at you aging, spending in limited time, efforts to make yourself better.
Because every day we live is the youngest day in our future life.