Domestic violence is not impulsive, but the choice of violence

People divide domestic violence into two aspects: mental violence and use force to torture his wife/child.These two types of violence are expressed in harsh words or a few painful slaps or destroying furniture in the family, more importantly than using weapons to attempt to rob the wife's life.

Referring to here, we can think of the famous Tiktoker female incidentHang Du Pastor, being tortured by the Chinese husband both mentally and the most recent time was to kill her.This is a serious case of domestic violence that the people of Hang Du nomadic are condemning the abusive husband.

According to Master of Clinical Psychology Vo Thi Lam Oanh (Braincare Institute of Education Psychology), domestic violence is often related to power and control.This can happen to anyone or in any situation.In this case,Hang Du's husbandUsing domestic violence as a way to gain power and maintain a sense of control over your wife, when you realize that you are gradually becoming unclear or have the right to decide the situation of work and revenue.Introducing his wife like before, and he was very angry about this.

Why are men who are often violent users in marriage?Because the ability to control emotions is inferior to women?Because of impulsive personality?

Are not!

Master of Clinical Psychology Vo Thi Lam Oanh affirmed:"Domestic violence is the choice of the violent, not an uncontrolled impulsiveness. It is personal and has no specific causes of violence."

According to Master Oanh, some basic factors can contribute to the trend of violence to solve a person's family problem, including:

- Experiencing childhood injury

- Keep certain belief systems of steps and dominance.

- Witness domestic violence when I was young

Although the causes of domestic violence are complicated, many studies show that the majority of domestic violence is due to learning.For example: Children who witness domestic violence may grow up with the core belief of physical violence or the enemy's spirit is the acceptable way of resolving conflicts.Moreover, raising children believes that people with a different gender are inferior to the act of controlling and maintaining the supreme power in the family.

The psychological pain that the victim suffered

According to Master Lam Oanh, after experiencing mental and physical torture, the wives and children in that family will carry in themselves invisible psychological pain that not everyone can identify them.Existed and directly affected their spiritual quality:

Low self -esteem, sin and shame: nPeople who have experienced domestic violence often absorb negative messages and criticize from those who abuse them, leading to a sense of inferiority.They began to believe that they did not deserve to be loved and respected.Believe all of their fault and they suffer that abuse.And this ddiefu leads to a feeling of embarrassment, making building new relationships or even trusting friends or other family members becomes difficult.

Paralysis or emotional separation:To protect themselves, the wife and children can suppress emotions and find ways to separate/isolate their emotions to be able to handle strong emotions related to violence.

Concern and fear continuously:After experiencing domestic violence or individuals who are violent or witnessing violence will be able to live in fears constantly clinging to their minds.This increases the level of straight port.Put people in a state of alert and high alert for 24/24 hours.

Depression and stress disorder after trauma (PTSD):Those who suffer from serious or prolonged domestic violence may have PTSD, a condition characterized by recall, nightmares and intense emotional reactions, pale if they are always in the main themselves.The school tissue has taken place in violence

In the end, the important thing that victims need to remember domestic violence is the choice.And the action/reaction of the violent person cannot be the cause of violence.

"If you are experiencing domestic violence, it is not your responsibility and you will never be responsible for that.Blame or manipulate your psychology.

Speak up when you realize that everything is getting over the control and affecting the quality of your mental and physical life seriously.Looking for immediate support when the violence is happening, by contacting the authorities.Or if that has gone through and you find that it is bringing you psychological consequences, look for mental assistance from psychologists ","Master Oanh said.